Earlier this week, I saw this article, Why I Always Ask for Photos of Just the Two of Us, shared on my Facebook Page.
As I read the article, I can so relate to it as pictures of just me and my husband is so rare. I’m pretty sure, I’m not alone in this as most mums will have a gallizon photos of their kids, them and their kids, their husband and their kids and of course lots of family photos but where are the photos of dad and mum alone in the picture?
So I went through the photos that I took this year and it turns out that I do have some photos of us, but they really just count as far and few between.
What’s the big deal about taking photos together?
How about changing up the question and ask why do you have so many photos of your kids instead? Sure, they’re cute and adorable, they grow up fast, you want to capture their fast step, their first word, their first concert in school. After all, these are all moments to be celebrated. But why shouldn’t it be the same for your and your husband as well?
You may not be able to capture a shared moment between you and your spouse like what you do for your kids, but let’s not forget about your own mum and dad moments too.
As a memory keeper, the photos of us is one thing, but it’s also the story behind the photos that I hold dear to my heart.
Some days, I like to just scroll through my photos and test my hubby with questions like, do you remember where we took this? Do you remembered what happened when we took this. And these have inadvertently became conversations starters since the topic is not about the kids. And honestly, don’t we need more of such conversations to remember that we are first husband and wife before we are parents?
Dad and Mum in the Picture
So here’s a few of our photos sans Sophie!
This was taken on the spur after our recent wedding anniversary celebration, where Sophie was not invited. Photos in the night are always a bad idea with dim lighting and blurred images, but we figured we gotta have some memories of our anniversary celebration, dinner at Mortons no less, a surprise that Alexis pulled off so well since he wasn’t even a steak lover.
So clicked and it captured our intoxicated expressions after dinner! And surprise, surprise our selfie actually turned out looking more than just decent.
Like most parents, we don’t spend as much time doing things together. So when Alexis accompanied for the Music Run which came to Singapore earlier this year,. we made sure we snapped photos to show Sophie that we’re still pretty cool parents.
And for us, it’s also a reminder to keep healthy, have fun and have a good time.
if your kids are older and you’re confident of handing them your camera or mobile phone, get them to snap photos of the both of you too!
Be prepared for some hits and misses and in some cases, there could be more misses than hits like you see in the pictures above and below. But that does make for real moments and rather funny ones too.
Photo credits to my budding photographer 🙂
While we are not the sort who will display our affections openly, we feel it’s important that Sophie sees Daddy and Mummy as a loving couple who can go through tough times together. I’m not talking about faking it in front of the kids, but rather that it’s so natural for us to hold hands or hug or kiss or even take a photo together.
Marriage is worth celebrating
The fact is, parenting and marriage have it’s fair share of challenges and it something that we don’t take for granted. Like every couple, we have our disagreements, petty quarrels and arguments. Times when we don’t see eye to eye on matters either big or small.
But at the end of the day, we ask ourselves if we’re headed in the same direction for our family and the answer is always yes. So we lay down our pride and come to pray together for wisdom to do it better than yesterday.
And like what I learnt over the weekend, we all need visual reminders of what we want more of and don’t you agree we need to treasure our spouses and spend more time with them too.
So go ahead and take out your cameras or mobile phones and take a photo of you and your partner (no kids allowed). And just for fun, do add the hashtag #dadandmuminthepicture.
And whoever said that your photos must be one that looks wonderful and nice? I think the real and authentic photos tells the most story and after all life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.