Why date nights and couple trips matter for parents


“It finally came down to this, where I had to pry her fingers from his hand and

tell her firmly that this man is my husband…”


As much as I am a mum, I also wear the hat of a wife and the same goes for my husband. But if you’re like me and have been married for over a decade, you could do with a reminder every now and then, as well as our kids.

Recently, I made a deal with Sophie that Daddy and I will go on one overseas trip without her. Of course she wasn’t happy to learn that she’s been excluded from our plans. And to further rub salt to her wound, I added that we’ll have two date nights in a month all in the name of nurturing our marriage.

At 9 years old, Sophie still plays lightbulb and insists that we hold her hand, giving Alexis and I limited opportunities to hold hands like we used to.

It was one of those days, when she squeezed between us and demanded that she holds Daddy’s hand. I had to pry her fingers from his hand and tell her firmly that this man may be her daddy but he’s also my husband.


The day my husband asked for my forgiveness

Elton John was right when he penned the song, sorry seems to be the hardest word. I may not come across as being stubborn but Alexis would tell you otherwise especially when it’s crystal clear that I’m at fault and yet refuse to budge and apologise.

Like every married couple, Alexis and I have our share of disagreements and quarrels. We’ve gone through the full spectrum of conflicts from petty squabbles to epic fights where chairs where flung and even broke.

Till this day, Sophie remembers the incident like it happened yesterday and told me she was terrified when I hurled a chair across the room which broke just inches away from her. She tells me that she never wants to see me turn into a monster when I get mad and I felt so ashamed that my daughter had to witness my outrage.

I know we’re not supposed to fight in front of our kids and I’m not proud of it. However, I’m thankful that we’ve moved on from that angry period in our lives where every quarrel was a potential eruption of tempers.

When opposites cause sparks

Relationship experts say that opposites attract but at the same time, it’s a recipe for sparks and friction too. When a couple quarrels, the wife always hopes that her husband will break the tension by giving her a firm embrace and say, “Let’s not fight anymore because I love you and care about us.” Yea, that only happens in Korean drama ladies…

With my clearly too logical, right brain husband, emotions are thrown out of the window and he’ll be happy to prove me wrong like a lawyer interrogating the accused. When we’re in the middle of an argument, he wouldn’t back down until I concede defeat and I always wondered in those moments just why did I even marry such a heartless man. #truestory

The day my husband asked for my forgiveness

On the other hand, Alexis has little problem apologising when he makes a mistake and often hints that I should learn from him.

But last Sunday I was taken aback when he held my hand, looked me in the eye and asked for my forgiveness.

He said he was sorry for

  • Not being attentive to my feelings
  • Not placing my needs above his
  • For failing to be patient as he ought to
  • Wanting to be right and win all the time
  • Venting his frustration on me when he’s had a hard day at work
  • Not giving me more affirmation for my new SAHM role

I was taken aback by his list of “confession” . In my head I was thinking, “Wow I never knew that Alexis would even considered these things significant enough to apologise for. And that’s how most of us would think, isn’t it?


In Songs of Solomon 2:15, the Shulammite says,

“Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.”

And these are precisely the “little foxes” that have the potential to ruin a marriage, like

  • an unkind word
  • a snappy response
  • giving each other the silent treatment
  • taking each other for granted

Over time, the accumulated hurts and disappointment festers and slowly develops into resentment, bitterness and even anger towards our spouse.

A good marriage is made up of two good forgivers

After Alexis asked for forgiveness, it was my turn to humble myself to seek his forgiveness. The pastor who led the time of repentance and reconciliation between husbands and wives at the prayer meeting, ended with a renewal of marriage vows as we turned to God to help us keep our lifelong commitment to each other.

It was a touching sight to see so many couples holding hands and rededicating their love, some with their children beside them.

Our family at Pray Singapore 2018


Marriage is the union of two imperfect people who have learnt how to forgive
and not to give up on each other.


Asking for forgiveness and extending forgiveness is never easy especially when trust has been destroyed and faith has been lost. It’s tempting to get mad, get even and  perhaps even seek revenge.

But we have a God who is in the business of restoring marriages and He has shown us the perfect example of grace. Grace that is undeserving, which we received so freely from Him, so that we can extend that same grace to our spouse.


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-8


Be reconciled and restore your marriage 

What are the little foxes in your marriage today? It’s easy to sweep them under the carpet but one day these issues, like a ticking time bomb will eventually blow up and lost trust may be too late to salvage.

In fact, don’t even minimise the seemingly small “offences” and endeavor to right every wrong quickly. Humble yourself, ask for forgiveness and remember to wipe the wrongdoings from your memory and keep no records of wrong. Remember your marriage vows and don’t forget that your marriage is worth protecting and fighting for.


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Life of Significance as a Stay Home Mom


“Now that you’re a stay home mum, you can’t call yourself a juggling mom anymore.”


Now if you’re a mum, and a stay home mum at that, I can anticipate that you’ll either want to

  1. Roll your eyes and snigger before jumping to your defence or
  2. Smack the daylights out of that person

Well, that came from someone who’s neither married nor has kids.

Kinda reminds you of the same know-it-alls who dishes out parenting advice when they are not parents themselves, don’t you think?

How did I react?


Austin Heights Water Park in JB

The Legoland Water Park has always been our family’s favourite water theme park in Johor. Though we are not Legoland annual pass holders, it’s not uncommon for us to go there twice a year since we take short trips to JB very often.

For our recent trip to JB during the National Day weekend, we decided to check out Austin Heights Water Park. As the name suggests, Austin Heights Water Park is located at Mount Austin which is a 30 minute drive away from JB Sentral.

I’ve shared about this water and adventure park where they have a Water Park, Forest Adventure Rope Course, Trampoline Park, Ice Skating Rink and Drift Karting all conveniently under one roof.

So how does it compare to Legoland Water Park and is it worth visiting? Read on to find out

Various attraction prices in Austin Heights Water & Adventure Park

READ ALSO: Review of Legoland Water Park in Johor

Splashing good time in Austin Heights Water Park JB

Once we entered the water park, Sophie made a beeline for the water playground, Splash World. It’s always such a thrill to wait in anticipation of the big splash by the bucket of water above the water playground and we did exactly that.

Here kids can look forward to a splashing fun time zipping down the various mini slides. I didn’t think much of the mini slides and was caught by surprised at how fast I slid down.

Next we went for a more exhilarating ride, the Supersurf. The height of the slide didn’t intimidate Sophie the least bit and she was racing us up the 3 storey slide with her mat.

I have to admit that my legs started to tremble as I climbed higher and higher. But on second thoughts, it could be stairs too.

Once we reached the top, we’ve reached the point of no return!

After bracing myself, I screamed my way down as I clung on tightly to my mat. I regretted it immediately as I was lying face down and had water in my eyes and mouth. But that didn’t stop us from going again and again.

We went on to try the Double Racer Bowl with single and double floats respectively. Once again, I underestimated the slide and started screaming my way down.

After going down the covered slide, we were spun round in the “bowl” before emerging for the big splash.

Since it’s a double racer slide, we would compete to see who would slide down first and often get a good laugh if one of our floats overturn.

Next was conquering G Force Alley and Uphill Battle – two steep slides where one starts with an almost 90 degrees drop. It was crazy fast and while I was screaming my head off (It’s embarrassing that I’m such a screamer), Sophie was laughing from the rush of adrenaline.

The lifeguards were quite cheeky and even pushed us off backwards which made the experience even more thrilling.

Last was conquering the Yellow Wall and I kid you not when I said I had major regrets agreeing to take this with Alexis once I got to the top of the stairs.

This double float slide sends you into a tunnel slide and before you know it, you’ll be rudely greeted with a steep dip which gives the needed momentum to send you straight up the almost vertical yellow wall!

Sophie who sat on this ride out told me afterwards that she could hear my curling screams and concluded that this must be the scariest ride of all. She got that right alright.

Not wanting to give myself a further heart attack, we rested at the Wave Pool before going for lunch.

We were famished from the whole morning of action and digged right into lunch. The cafe offered items such as fish and chips, spaghetti, nasi lemak, chicken wings and even had kids meals.

Sophie ordered the popcorn chicken set which came with a can drink for RM 15.95 while my fish and chips meal was RM18.95.

Our review of Austin Heights Water Park

Overall, we liked that Austin Heights Water Park was not as crowded as Legoland Water Park which means a much shorter waiting time. When we were there on a Saturday, the crowd only slowly streamed in after 11am and even then we never had to wait more than 5 mins for any rides.

As Sophie is already 1.25m, she could take most of the rides with the exception of the yellow wall. However, we noticed that they didn’t have any life vests for toddlers. Also, while most rides are manned, I noticed that there may not be a lifeguard at the end of some rides. This may be a safety concern if you have younger kids and here’s where Legoland Water Park may be more suitable.

READ ALSO: Review of Legoland Water Park in Johor

Their lazy river also pales in comparison to Legoland Water Park without the fun brick element. And for some strange reason, I question why they choose to have the ground in this almost algae like colour which can be a put off.

That said, we enjoyed a very good deal when they were having a promotion and paid RM170 for the 3 of us. And for the month of September, they are running a National Day promotion where you enjoy a special rate of RM 61 for 2 pax. Do check their Facebook page for details here.


If you’re driving, there’s ample parking lots available which are free. Right beside Austin Heights is the Midori hotel and there are a few restaurants and cafe around the area as well.

Austin Heights Water & Adventure Park
No. 71, Jalan Austin Heights 8/1,
Taman Mount Austin, 81100 Johor Bahru,
Johor, Malaysia


If you’re heading to JB, don’t miss these posts where I share some of my shopping finds and places to go cafe hopping across the causeway as well.


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Getting fit as a family with Fitbit

As the saying goes, health is better than wealth. So it makes perfect sense to start our kids on the right footing to develop good healthy habits when they are young.

However like most digital native kids, the allure of screen time is increasingly proving to be more enticing over outdoor play time and this is especially so after Sophie entered Primary School. Relaxation is almost synonymous with screen time and from what I hear from other parents, Sophie is not alone.

Developing healthy habits in kids with Fitbit Ace

Do you know that for kids aged 7 and above, it is recommended that they get at least 60 minutes of physical activity in a day?


To encourage Sophie to develop healthy habits and remind her to get active, her Fibit Ace is the perfect device for the job. The Fitbit Ace is a wearable activity tracker targeted at kids aged 8 and up just like her.

As an activity tracker, the Fitbit Ace not only monitors the number of steps she takes, it also sends Sophie a reminder to move if she’s been inactive for too long (like being glued to the TV or iPad) in order to hit her personal daily target of 10,000 steps.

Sophie gets a sense of accomplishment each time she hits her target as the Fitbit Ace will buzz and show a celebratory message with fireworks on her device.

In addition, the Fitbit Ace also tracks her sleep and her quality of sleep to ensure Sophie gets her 9 hours of eyeshut to be fully recharged encouraging better concentration in school.


Fitbit Versa – My favorite Fitbit to date

Sophie is not the only one who loves her Fitbit as my Fitbit Versa has been a trusty companion to support me in achieving my fitness goals too.

I’ve been a Fitbit user for years and owned the very first generation of Flex and subsequently the Charge as well. With the new Versa, I can see how the tracker has evolved both in terms of design and functionality with the incorporation of a lot more user friendly features. In comparison, the Versa model is also lighter and more sleek.

For one, its water resistant feature to 50 meters means that I can now hit the pool with ease while still tracking the laps I’ve swam

What I also like is the ability to personalise my desired screen display from the wide options available depending on the metrics I like to know. This gives me a good overview of my steps, heart rate and activity timing

Product family image of Fitbit Versa Family with Screens

Personally, I’m working towards a healthier lifestyle and have resumed running as a form of exercise. It’s one exercise that doesn’t require any gym membership and I enjoy how it gives me time to listen to my own thoughts as I take different routes to discover about my neighbourhood.

Knowing that I’m improving my timing and distance and exercising at my target heart rate gives me an added motivation to go further and faster so that I can beat my personal best.

Another notable feature of the Fitbit Versa is the new female health tracking feature.

Not only can I track my monthly cycle, and log down symptoms such as headaches cramps, flow, etc, it also creates a predictive predictive computation for my cycle overtime which can be easily accessed at a glance on my Fitbit app.

Getting fit the fun way as a family

Getting active with our Fitbits has been a rewarding journey on so many levels.

As an AIA Vitality member, tracking my steps with my Fitbit Versa has translated into monetary rewards with weekly Cold Storage or Starbucks vouchers in addition to rewards from the National Steps challenge. If you’re already active then I highly recommend you to check out these programs to get the most out of your healthy lifestyle.

But the greatest reward is having Sophie with me as we get healthier the fun way to achieve our fitness goals. She’s the reason why I want to lead a healthier life so that we can enjoy more activities together.  And the friendly competition between us nudges us to “outdo” each other as we work towards our badges and trophies.

Food may connect people but fitness takes it to a whole new level for us!

For more details on the Fitbit Ace and Fitbit Versa or to find out about other models, do check out Fitbit’s Facebook page here.



Read more about the fun activities we’ve done as a family to keep fit and healthy


*A Juggling Mom received the Fitbit Ace and Fitbit Versa to write this review. All opinions and photos are my own, unless credited otherwise.