Motivational Mondays – Filling your child’s love tank {Giveaway}

The Straits Times recently polled 872 people who were mostly parents, and almost half were dissatisfied with the amount of quality time spent with their family. But one shocking result was when  4 out of 10 respondents spend less an hour on average with their families daily.

That’s probably just a meal together and that’s it.  While quality time can be subjective and debatable, we always have to ask ourselves if we are having meaningful moments with our loved one everyday.  In a way, I’m quite morbid because I tend to ask myself what would I regret if I were  to die and that helps me focus on the things that truly matters in life so that I’ll live without regrets. #Iammorbidlikethat

Time is a very precious commodity to me as a working mum.  So it’s even more important that I make it count and be sure that my family knows that they matter most, especially for Sophie since she spends more time at the childcare than with me.

love language

In the book, The Five Love Languages of Children which I’ve shared about here, I’ve spoken of the concept of emotional tank. Just like how a car needs to be powered by fuel, children are powered by love for their emotional tanks to enable them to grow, flourish and navigate through life.

But every child’s love language is unique and different. To effectively speak love to your child with the limited time you may have with them, you need to understand how they receive and give love.

You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it- she will not feel loved.

According to Dr Gary Chapman, author of the book, The Five Love Languages of Children,  the five love languages are

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

To give you an indication of what your child’s love language may be, download the Love Languages Quiz from Focus on the Family’s website here.


I did the quiz with Sophie over the weekend and her love language is receiving gifts. But knowing her, I feel it’s more of quality time and physical touch. Through the quiz, we talked about how we are all made different and how we like to be loved. She quotes bed time story telling, going to the playground, flying kites and cooking with mama as all her favourite ways to spend time with mama and papa.

You can also download the specially curated Family Activity Pack that’s filled with practical activities like a family craft, printable notes, and vouchers for children to foster bonding and strengthen ties. Just in time for Children’s Day too 🙂


Win a copy of The Five Love Languages of Children

If you’re keen to learn more about the five love languages for kids, here’s your chance to win a copy of the book kindly sponsored by Focus on the Family.

All you’ve got to do is to take the quiz with your child and leave a comment to share the results of your child’s love language and stand to win the book. For additional chances, do complete the other steps in the Rafflecopter widget below.

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  1. Lee Ling September 29, 2014 at 8:43 am Reply

    My 3 children’s love language are word of affirmation, quality time and physical touch.I spend quality time with my kids every night by reading story and sharing our thoughts and feeling b4 bed time.

  2. Evelyn Hu September 29, 2014 at 8:52 am Reply

    My child’s love language is receiving gifts.

    Evelyn Hu

  3. Jingxian September 29, 2014 at 9:02 am Reply

    My child’s is Words of Affirmation so more praises are in order.

  4. joyce koo September 29, 2014 at 9:12 am Reply

    My gal is quality time would spend more quality time with her

  5. joyce koo September 29, 2014 at 9:13 am Reply

    My gal is quality time would spend more quality rime with her

  6. YM Leong September 29, 2014 at 9:46 am Reply

    My boy is word of affirmation and my girl is physical touch. I give them both language of love and spend quality time with them by bringing them out for exercising on weekends.

  7. Kaye Wong September 29, 2014 at 11:46 am Reply

    My child’s love language is quality time. Cuddling and reading with her every night 🙂

  8. Robert Sim September 29, 2014 at 1:22 pm Reply

    Hi, when I clicked on the link provided in your blog above to the online quiz, it says the article could not be found. Please advise. Thanks!

  9. Ai Sakura September 29, 2014 at 2:08 pm Reply

    Her language is “physical touch” and not surprised there! More hugs and kisses for her! 😉

    Ai Sakura
    sakuraharuka at live dot com

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

  10. Jaime Chan September 29, 2014 at 3:52 pm Reply

    My child’s love language is words of affirmations.
    Jaime Chan

  11. Cynthia Lau September 29, 2014 at 6:32 pm Reply

    Quality time. Spend time alone with her only.
    Cynthia Lau

  12. Estella September 29, 2014 at 9:22 pm Reply

    Joy’s love language is touch and words of affirmation!


  13. Ruby Lee September 30, 2014 at 8:35 am Reply

    my kids’ love language changes with time. but one stands out throughout the years: physical touch. they are happy to start and end the day with a big hug from mommy and daddy daily. 🙂

  14. Mum's calling September 30, 2014 at 10:05 am Reply

    Name: Karen
    My kids love language would probably be quality time. We play lots of games and reading together.

  15. Serene Leow September 30, 2014 at 10:40 am Reply

    My kids love language are quality time and words of affirmations.

    Serene Leow

    • Serene Leow September 30, 2014 at 11:39 am Reply

      We have a bedtime story every night and sometimes we act out parts in the story too. My kids love the acting part.

  16. Ada Koo September 30, 2014 at 10:54 am Reply

    My kids’ love language are words of affirmation and physical touch. I make it a point to hug them at least once a day.

  17. Pamela Tan September 30, 2014 at 11:04 am Reply

    I think my kids love language are physical touch, words of affirmation and quality time.

  18. Angie.S September 30, 2014 at 11:25 am Reply

    My daughter’s love language came up to be gift-giving from a simple questionnaire I did with her months ago. So I prepare little snacks for her to bring to school and occasionally bring her out for her fav ice-cream treats.

  19. Waiwai September 30, 2014 at 4:28 pm Reply

    Words of affirmation


  20. Zee September 30, 2014 at 6:50 pm Reply

    Aly’s love languages would be words of affirmation and quality time so I make sure I set aside time for her just before she goes to bed. That’s when we will read a book together and talk about her day. I also make it a point to be generous with my praises!

  21. Robert Sim October 1, 2014 at 12:13 am Reply

    My boy likes C and E – so more little surprise gifts for him and definitely lots of quality time to spend with him!

  22. Carol Lim October 1, 2014 at 12:39 am Reply

    Liked and shared. My kid cherishes quality time most, so I will definitely continue with monthly one-to-one dates with him.

  23. Wenqi October 1, 2014 at 10:27 am Reply

    I am not sure if I am right but I think my boy’s love language is physical touch. I give him lots of hugs and kisses.


  24. Lyn lee October 1, 2014 at 8:13 pm Reply

    K’s love language is receiving gifts and quality time! Scored 5 on each. 🙂

  25. Andrew Wong October 3, 2014 at 12:50 am Reply

    My boy’s love language is quality time. Always make an effort to read bedtimes story to him.

    Andrew Wong

  26. Lim Yin Ping October 3, 2014 at 1:25 am Reply

    Spending quality time with her!!!

  27. […] how we did the Love Language quiz to uncover Sophie’s love language? Another of her love language is words of affirmation. […]

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