Turning 34

I turned 34 on Monday and my dear hubby reminded me that I’m still on the right side of my thirties.  Honestly, I’m not too worried about getting older. After all, one does or rather hopes to be wiser with age like fine wine, no?

I spent a quiet weekend on a staycation at the Rasa Sentosa, a lovely surprise from the hubs after he saw how busy and bogged down I was at work for the past month. Initially, he was tight lipped about his surprise  but he finally spilled the beans when he gave orders to pack light for the weekend.

So I did but the one who was most excited was Sophie. Yes, my little light bulb tagged along dashing my hopes for a nice quiet weekend but then I wouldn’t have it any other way, because it’s always more fun with her around.

Room with a pool view

Since I’ve been advocating disconnecting intentionally to make more meaning connections with my family, I kept my handphone away so that I don’t pop into Facebook or Instagram and scroll mindlessly.  Besides hub (yes the wise one) said, people don’t need a real time commentary of what I’m doing 😛 I can officially say that I’m not a social media addict.

So we took walks on the beach, busked in the sun, laze and swam in the pool. Oh and ate and ate too 🙂

We also had our fun quotient for the weekend speeding on the luge and poor Sophie was scared out of her wits on the sky lift that she didn’t dare move an inch. Actually, the exact words from here were, “I’m not scared, I’m just nervous”.

We also went to Universal Studios (again) simply because Sophie said she’ll bring me somewhere exciting for my birthday. And so I obliged, much to her delight.

Me time just for me

After a weekend with the family, I decided that I’ll spend some me-time on my birthday. So after brunch with my sister and Sophie, I took off to East Coast beach. It wasn’t easy trying to convince myself that I needed time for myself. In fact, I was very tempted to cave in to Sophie’s request to not send her to school and spend time with her. The poor girl had red eyes and almost teared when I dropped her off at the child care and I thought to myself, what a mum I was.

But more than anything in the world, I knew that having a personal retreat to do some reflections was what I needed, especially on my birthday. Somehow I felt less guilty once I settled on a bench, kicked off my sandals and just took it all in.

The sea breeze in my hair.

The sound of the crashing waves.

The warmth of the sun on my skin.

This was my moment. This was just me and God. I prayed, I praised, I worshiped. I thanked God for this life that He’s given me and prayed for His directions for what lies ahead. I had to dig deep and be completely honest and raw as I reflected upon my life and penned down my thoughts as I look back at a year gone by.

There was a lot more clarity after that afternoon and I left feeling renewed in the body,  mind and spirit. And my biggest take away is to remember to be, and not to do, which is seemingly impossible for mums since we always have a thousand and one things on our to-do list.

But at the same time, it’s important, to remember that as mums, we have an incredible responsibility to care and nurture our family and it’s not a task that we can rely on our own strength. So once in a while, let’s just ask for help, ask for some alone time and be still, be at rest and just be.


(Pst: I told you we get wiser as we get older)


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Comments: 11

  1. Adeline April 30, 2014 at 8:31 am Reply

    Happy birthday, Susan! Sounds like you had a really wonderful celebration. Taking me-time off on your birthday was the right thing to do, and even though Sophie might not have understood it at that time, she will definitely benefit from what you have gained during that time alone.

    • Susan April 30, 2014 at 2:18 pm Reply

      Thanks Adeline. She was okay and was happy that the celebration continued at dinner time, with her included of course 🙂

  2. Angie.S April 30, 2014 at 8:33 am Reply

    Sounds like such an awesome birthday weekend! I need to take a leaf out of your book to intentionally detox from social media. Your quote of “to be and not to do” struck me too. We are constantly scurrying from one appointment to another. It’s amazing what some solitude and quality “me” time can do. Blessed 34th Susan!

    • Susan April 30, 2014 at 2:20 pm Reply

      Thanks again Angie. And yes, go do a digital detox like that Dot did too. Weekends are perfect for it because it leaves us with more time with the family and I tell you they really appreciate it too. 🙂

  3. Emily April 30, 2014 at 8:49 am Reply

    Happy Birthday, Susan! Rasa Sentosa is the perfect choice for staycation. My boy has been asking to go there again, and I’m planning to give him a surprise on his birthday this year.

    I agree with you on the social media disconnection part for quality family time. In fact, I’ve cut down a lot of FB time too. I’m happier to have more real Face Time with the family than snaring at my smartphone.

    Here’s wishing you Best of Health, Best of Luck, and Best of Everything in the year to come. 🙂

    • Susan April 30, 2014 at 2:22 pm Reply

      Thanks Emily. Yes, I do need to be in better health to take on more and to go the distance. Let’s all be more focused mums for our families 🙂

  4. Ai Sakura April 30, 2014 at 11:15 am Reply

    A beautiful way to celebrate your birthday. Blessed birthday once again! Mine is coming up real soon and I’m thinking of spending it alone too.. something I wouldn’t have thought of in the past as I love big parties but now, I find solace in the quietness of it all 🙂

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    • Susan April 30, 2014 at 2:24 pm Reply

      Thanks Ai. Like you, I prefer to be in the company of friends and family at such times. But at the same time, it feels surprising refreshing, liberating and rejuvenating.

  5. lyn lee April 30, 2014 at 3:03 pm Reply

    Lovely post! Can’t agree more on the alone time, and sounds like you had a great fruitful time of reflection. I was inspired by Dee and you, and also carved out a morning to do QT and read a book yesterday, digitally detox from social media and got a massage (yay). Was truly refreshing for soul and spirit.

    Happy happy birthday once again!

  6. Rachel May 1, 2014 at 11:22 am Reply

    I enjoy spending time with myself and Rasa Sentosa has a special place in my heart…sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate your birthday. Here’s wishing you more wonderful things in your life and happy birthday !

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