How was the long weekend for you? For me, I feel super recharged and I think it had to do with the fact that I went on not just one but two dates with Alexis over the long weekend.
For moms, you’ll know how rare these moments can be. It felt so surreal and in my excitement, I tweeted this on Friday night and showed it to the hubby who was beside me.
I think I caught him secretly smiling to himself when he thought I wasn’t looking.
It has been so long since we went on a proper date. The kind where we held each other’s hands instead of Sophie’s. One where we had long conversations without getting interrupted by another of Sophie’s why, what, how questions. One where we stayed out late without having to check the time. And boy did I miss these moments as we connected to each other.
Being out on dates with Alexis was a reminder that we should make an effort to do this more often if we want to nurture our relationship and keep the romance alive. After all, being parents should not stop us from being lovers, especially when a strong foundation in our marriage goes towards keeping the family unit strong.
And just like how the moments we spent with our children are important in sending them the message that they mean the world to us. We tend to forget that our spouses are also equally if not more important.
So let’s remember to create special moments in our marriages by going on more dates so that they become special memories for us and our spouse. And don’t worry if they are not as exciting as they used to be in your former glorious dating days. Every effort counts and I’m sure every hubby (or wife) will agree with that 🙂
And to the man in my life, thank you for always accepting me, supporting me, thinking of me and reminding me just how much you love me. Always crazy in love with you.
How do you make time for dates with your partner?
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Blissful!! I can tell from your smile!! 🙂 thanks for sharing 🙂
Bliss… Yes I think that’s the word for it 🙂
Date night is something which I am also working on to have with HB but it hasn’t been that easy. The girl is not that comfy with the grannies at night so it is mostly dates during the daytime for us.
It’s not so much the timing of the dates, but the fact that you’re still making the effort to go on date after 3 kids is great. A pity that your experience with R at Chock full of beans was disappointing. Perhaps you can try Coastal Settlement in Changi too.
Woah… this is a big area we still have to work on. Being away from immediate family makes it difficult to get babysitters. Our babysitters resource are usually exhausted for attending church seminars, cell group and work meetings/functions. Date night is like at the bottom of the list. Not sure yet what is the solution for us to make it easier, but maybe this is something for us to talk about to see what we can do.
Serene,
Perhaps you can try getting your friends to babysit for you? I think for some dating or engage couples, this is good practice for them. But I know it can be a challenge to find sitters when you don’t have your parents with you.
Well there’s always the option of having dates at home. Just got to be more creative in this instance.
How I wish hubby and me can go on a date without the little one. But hubby is not romantic type. If I ask him for a date, he will want me to plan it.
Well my advice to you, do it girl. As modern women, we should not have gender sterotype roles anymore. Actually I prefer to plan our dates, then I’ll know how to dress up, where I go, etc. I’m a planner like that 😛
Sadly, my parents do not believe in couple time. They themselves dedicated their time in raising me and my siblings. They sacificed their time with their friends. In their opinion, our boys are our responsibility to look after the moment my hubby and I reached home (after work). Our friends’ wedding dinners and baby 1st birthday are the only exception.
I truly appreciate my parents’ dedication and their sacrifices. But I do not want problems to seep in our marriage later. It’s only early this year I put my foot down and decide to have our couple time. What we did was to take a half day leave and go on dates. We loved it and felt re-charged.
Hi PR,
Me and hubby also like to take leave to go on dates once a while. But with a young child, we never know when we may need to utilise it if the child care is close or if something comes up. I think the fact that you make effort to go on dates, shows that your marriage is important for the both of you. Wishing you a blissful marriage with your hubby 🙂
super love your post here Susan.. you said “And don’t worry if they are not as exciting as they used to be in your former glorious dating days.”, that’s really meaningful to me.. thanks for sharing your experience and well done babe!!
super love your post here Susan.. you said “And don’t worry if they are not as exciting as they used to be in your former glorious dating days.”, that’s really meaningful to me.. thanks for sharing your experience and well done babe!!
super love your post here Susan.. you said “And don’t worry if they are not as exciting as they used to be in your former glorious dating days.”, that’s really meaningful to me.. thanks for sharing your experience and well done babe!!
Thanks Felicia. Glad that you had some time with hubby this morning too. Lets keep the romance alive with more dates 🙂
Thanks Felicia. Glad that you had some time with hubby this morning too. Lets keep the romance alive with more dates 🙂
Thanks Felicia. Glad that you had some time with hubby this morning too. Lets keep the romance alive with more dates 🙂
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