When you think of spontaneous, how many of you would associate a mom with being spontaneous?
Not many I suppose. After all, we moms are the queens of routines and timetables.
So it’s hardly surprising that after Sophie came along, I slowly lost my sense of spontaneity. And in it’s place was an obsession with routines which must be followed to a T. I cringe now recalling how I used to record down all her nap times, feedings times (including which boob she drank from), pee, poo and what have you. It also didn’t help that Alexis was particular about her naps and bed time and insisted that she should be put to bed early. So in her younger days, we avoided social gatherings especially for dinners and blamed it on the baby.
Now that Sophie’s older, we sensed that she longs to stay up a little longer just to spend more time with us. And while we really want to catch up on our rest plus a little housework after a day’s work, we know that by spending that bit of time with her will really affirm our love for her.
Me: Since it’s a Public Holiday tomorrow, shall we go somewhere? (This was already 8:30pm)
Alexis: Hmm, where to?
Me: To the airport! Just for fun. Anyway we can sleep in tomorrow…
Alexis: Then Sophie how?
Me: Just bring her pram and her milk then she can sleep when she wants to.
And we did it. No ifs, no buts. We just packed up and set off for the airport.
It may not sound like a big deal. But you should have seen the wide smile that waa on Sophie’s face, and the excitement when she went, “Hurray!” after we told her that we were going to the airport after dinner.
Needless to say, she had lots of fun running around the airport and treating it like the big playground.
As I sat down and saw Sophie having such a great time even though it’s way pass her bedtime, it reminded me the importance of being spontaneous once in a while and doing something outrageous. In Singapore, we are way too familiar with living within the confines of structured routines and rules. As parents, while we bemoan about how the rigid system is getting to our kids, shouldn’t we be finding ways to break away from it from time to time?
Try doing something unexpected with the family this week and be spontaneous. Maybe you can get them to suggest something crazy and they may just surprise you with their creativity. After all, the memories of life are in these crazy fun moments as a family.
Do link up on my Merry Mondays post and share how you like to get spontaneous with the family.
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