Last Thursday was Valentine’s Day. While we didn’t make any special plans for that day, I was secretly hoping and wishing that Alexis got me something, anything, just because it’s Valentine’s Day. And it’s been a long time since I received a card or even flowers from him.
As it turned out, the only Valentine’s Day card I received was from Sophie.
And I forgot to add, when I wished him Happy Valentine’s Day in the morning, all I got was a “Yah, Happy Valentine’s day. Can you please go and get ready for work?. Pretty much a shoo fly response which was the first dampener.
I tried to make him feel guilty about it and sent a whatsapp message at mid day only to to be shot back with more, “Next time can you please get ready faster, wake up earlier, yadah yadah…” So I was bummed…. the.whole.day.
After you become parents, the only person who is getting all the lovin is the baby or the kids. They are the ones who are receiving the hugs, the good night kisses and even the silly grins. Truth be told, Sophie is now at an age that really zaps up the rest of our energy and time after we get home from work so it’s no wonder that we don’t even have time for a proper conversation as a couple.
But that evening, as I wrote this familiar verse from the book of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, on a handmade gift I made for Alexis, I got reminded that love is no longer just a word that we utter on our lips.
For us, love is now an outward demonstration of our vow, our commitment that we make to each other every single day.
While we don’t express it with flowers of gifts, we do it with acts of service, like taking turns to tuck Sophie to bed so that one of us can have a quiet evening. Or when I cook a healthy meal for him that not only feeds the body but nourishes the soul.
Yes, we may not wake up feeling dizzy with love on Valentine’s day anymore, but I know that we have a love that is anchored in the security that we have each other’s back and am looking out for each other’s best interest. The kind of love that sticks around even when things get tough.
And I’m reminded that this love is one that needs effort. It needs constant nurture with encouraging words, acts of service, appreciation and dates from time to time just to keep the sparks alive. Which we did post Valentine’s Day with a nice meal and a movie.
So that my friends is what love is for a married couple. Not the most exciting kind of love that you may look forward to but it’s a love that always protects, always trust, always hopes and always preserve!
Photo taken by little Sophie
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