I’ve been slacking on my 30 days challenge. So I’m attempting to catch up on some updates before I jet off to Kimichi Land 🙂
Yesterday’s topic was
Between me and Alexis, he has very generously appointed me the role of CDO. Not familiar with the term? That’s Chief Disciplinary Officer for you. Does that term alone strike fear in your heart already? Have I also mentioned I also hold the title of CEO at home, Chief Entertainment Officer. For the record, I would prefer to stick to the latter role, thank you very much!
I’m sure those who have a two year old toddler or whose kids have passed that age would raise both hands and feet to agree that the “terrible twos” is no myth. In fact, it begins to rear it’s head before the child even reaches two.
It’s no surprise that the topic of discipline has been brought up in my household on how to deal with Sophie’s “difficult” behaviors. In fact, I picked up this book titled “No More Misbehavin” from MPH a month ago, hoping to learn a thing from two from Michele Bora.
I must share with you the funny incident when I bought this book. I’m pretty sure that Sophie has not learnt to read at her age, but when I picked up this book, she was adamant that I put it down. At one point, she went as far as to grab the book from my hands and returned it to the shelves. I didn’t know if I should laugh or cry.
So back on disciplining a child. This CDO has also gone as far as to buy not one but two canes at home. Now all I have to do is raise the cane and Sophie will stop in her tracks and wail like no tomorrow, shouting, “Don’t beat Sophie”.
Now now, before you judge me, I have to justify that I have never caned her and don’t know what triggered that reaction from her. But it’s very effective if I want her to stop horsing around the furniture.
Usually before I whip out the cane, I’ll explain to her why I want her to stop what she’s doing and tell her what’s the expected behavoiur from her. If she continues, she gets one warning. If it falls on deaf ears, you’ll hear thunder roaring as I whip out the cane.
Seriously, I can take her nonsense, but not when it threatens to break her head or neck or leg. But as usual when I do that, Alexis will get all protective and go, “hurry and say sorry to mommy”.
What should a mom do when it’s time to start disciplining a child? Do share what’s the most effective disciplinary methods in your household. Yes, and the million dollar question, to cane or not to cane?
Tagged: bad behavoir, discipline, punishment, toddlers
when i get my own kid, I’d prolly buy a dozen canes and hide them in diff places. cos if my kid was anything like me, the canes will disappear down the rubbish chute… lol
Shu Duan: that’s what Matthew used to do as a kid. Hide them behind the wardrobe or throw them down the street!
Jialat. Like that confirm liao… Genes from both sides… Lol
Victor: caning is a perk? Not sure if I agree with that. But I’m certainly with you on the role of CEO!
I am the CEO and wouldn’t mind being the CDO since it comes with the perks of getting to cane when required. June is the CFO – Chief Feeding Officer
I have started caning my daughter earlier and understand your dilemma. I personnally feel that toddlers are unable to understand reasons, especially my daughter who loves to defy a clear instruction. I say “No”, the more she wants to try it. So I find caning effective. Just one time hard strike to let her remember the pain, and the rest of the times are merely threats because she will stop and think twice whenever I bring out the cane.
It’s good that my daughter is scared at the sight of the cane now. Hopefully, I don’t have to have a “cane opening” ceremony yet. But I’m also mindful of instilling fear in her if I want to discipline her.
How old is your daughter?
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