A New Perspective For Moms from Elevation Church on Vimeo.
The video above from Elevation Church has been going round on Facebook encouraging mums who are often critical of their parenting short-comings to have a fresh new perspective of how their kids see them.
I was tearing after watching it because like the mums who were interviewed, I often question my abilities as a mum, especially when I’m working most parts of the day and only have those precious weekends and few hours in the evenings with her. Lately, I’ve been feeling troubled at her behaviour and attitude as she tells me that she’s gotten into trouble in the childcare centre almost every other day. Most of the times it’s because she’s playing and talking to her classmates when she ought to be paying attention but at home it’s mainly for being rude or defiant.
If there is one area that I’m not allowing Sophie to slack in, is being a young lady who knows her manners. I always insists that she greets her elders when we meet them, that she minds her Ps & Qs, that she holds the lift for others, just to name a few. So these days when she talks back to me, it really riles me that all my teachings has fallen on deaf ears.
On one incident, she spat at me in the bathroom when I was showering her because in her defense all she wanted was to show me what her friends have started to do in class and she got rudely smacked on her lips by mama.
Of course, the water gates burst and she was yelling that she only wanted to show me. I was so mad that she insisted on doing it even though I maintained that she was not to do it. But what probably broke her were my harsh words spoken in anger after I smacked her lips.
That night before I tucked her into bed, I asked her.
Me: Do you know why mama scolded you and smack your lips?
Sophie: Yes….
Me: Will you do it again?
Sophie: No….
And just before she drifted to sleep, she sat up and whispered,
“Even though you scold me, I still love you mama.”
I turned to mush after hearing that and gave her a big bear hug with tears flowing down my cheeks because my daughter, young as she may be, knows my heart. She knows that even though I may have scolded her, punished her, I still love her dearly…
Thank you Sophie for loving mama, even though I’ve been fierce and even sometimes even impatient with you. Many a times, I’m still figuring out how to be a better mama for you and I know that while you enjoy me being a fun-loving, loud and sometimes crazy mama, I have to put on my disciplinarian hat because that’s also to show how I love you when I don’t want you to go down the wrong path and get away with the naughty things you’ve done. Thank you for showing me and telling me that you love me. Don’t stop your hugs and kisses. I love them and I love you oh so much my baby girl.
Love mama
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What a sweet lady you have! We are all trying, as harsh we may be to our kids, our heart is to groom them into a desirable person. Jia you!
Thanks for the encouragement. Yes, I do hope she always knows my heart and may I always only discipline out of love and never out of anger too.
I absolutely teared up watching that video. Thanks for sharing. Children’s love is so unconditional. As we are towards them. Even though it is not always perfect.
Yes. We have to learn to be less harsh on ourselves and more be more confident that we are doing the right things.
Hey Susan thanks for sharing such a precious experience. Indeed our children never stop loving us even after an episode of discipline. And they also know that we don’t stop loving them even when we have to take them in hand. May we continue to learn from our little ones how to love them, even as we make it our responsibility to teach and guide… 🙂
Thanks for sharing!! Brought tears to my eyes while reading your write up cos being a working mum I guess these situations u’ve described are familiar.. 😉 加油！
Thanks for the encouragement. Though we may not have the luxury of spending most of our days with our child, we can certainly make the most out of it. Jia you too!
These little girls! On one hand they want to defy us and show their independence. On the other hand, they can’t help being sweet little kids. Big hugs Sophie!