It’s Children’s Day today in Singapore and unlike most child care centers that are closed for the day, Sophie’s child care is having a Children’s Day celebration with a Prince and Princesses theme.
We just got back from a six days holiday in Hong Kong this week and I was quite hesitant to take leave to join her for the celebration. But I know that my presence means the world to her and she’s every so proud to tell her teachers and friends, this is my mummy, as she introduces me with a wide smile on her face. So just before I left work yesterday, I applied for half day in the morning so that I can be there with her. To be there for her.
As a working mum, I sometimes feel that I’m short-changing Sophie by not spending more time with her. When I look at my friends who have chosen to be stay home mums, I often wonder how things might turn out if I chose that path. I know that for some, they do it because they can’t find alternative care arrangements and I’m so thankful that right from four months, she took to infant care and subsequently to child care well.
Now that Sophie is four years old, I feel that I’ve missed out on so much of her growth and development that it surprises me how she’s bloomed into this confident and spunky soon-to-be preschooler. She’s certainly growing up faster than I can catch up and boy do I wish I could slow her down a little. Of course, some would say that for working mums, we can still spend quality time with our kids on weekends. But really can our so called quality time really make up for quantity time and do our kids feel the same about this justification?
In fact, the reason why we’ve gone on a recent family holiday to Hong Kong instead of a couple holiday to Bali is perhaps our subconscious way of two working parents trying to compensate for the times we are away from Sophie. I know that one overseas holidays is not going to cut it, neither will more toys or presents.
As a mum, my deepest wish for Sophie is that her childhood be filled with precious memories where her parents read to her every night before bed time, allowed her to unleash the adventurer spirit within when she wants to learn rock climbing, cheered for her when she picks up a new sport, walked hand in hand in parks and picking out flowers, shared a sundae with her, brought to different parts of the world, doodled and coloured castles and rainbows with her….
For me, this inspirational quote sums up how I desire to be a more intentional parent.
To be in our child’s memories tomorrow, we have to be in their lives today
Let’s start creating memories with our kids today that will last a lifetime, both for our children and us as parents. Because when we look back, we can smile and say, that having kids was indeed the best decision of our lives!
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