As a mom, I’ve come to realise that a happy marriage cannot be taken for granted. If anything, it takes extra efforts on both parties to keep the love alive.
I know I’ve probably said this, but I’ll say it again that having a three-year old toddler that demands all my attention during my waking hours (except when I’m at work) makes it even harder to have the quality time I’ll like with my hubby. Even the journey to and fro the office is when I have to read books with Sophie, play games with her and answer her 101 questions. It’s no wonder that these days, I get so tired after work that I’ll fall fast asleep when I tuck her to bed. So where’s the quality couple time, you tell me?
But back to my point about not taking our marriage for granted, I was determined to create our quality couple time. So last weekend, we made plans to go on a date. Not just any other date, it was a date where we recreated our first date by going roller blading.
Back to Our First Date
Back when we first dated, we went roller blading regularly. I suspected it was Alexis’s way of finding an excuse to hold my hand since I was really lousy at it but I was keen to learn since it was so trendy then and I must say he had pretty nifty moves which scored with me.
So we headed to East Coast, put on our skates, held hands and skated along the beach pavement while the world passed us by. Though there might not have been racing hearts, I felt that we were making connections again. We spent time sharing about our work, about how we envision our family to be, especially now that Sophie is getting more challenging to manage with her independent streak rearing it’s ugly head. We may not have all the answers after our conversation but it sure showed us that we are not alone in our struggles if we have each other.
We broke a sweat, talked, laughed and held hands. It may not be the most romantic of dates, but this is the kind of date that I missed and we made a promise to go on more dates like that.
Still roller blading together after 12 years
How do you create quality couple time for yourself?